Discussion from the book entitled 'All Men Don't Cheat, But Why He Cheated On You' by Dwight L Fields (Not yet released, as of, the 11th day of September 2014, but soon will be available).
Enjoy.
With social media being what it is, chaos either sells, or is strongly searched for, and/or advertised. (But, I'm not complaining. Some of it can be highly entertaining.)
(Just think) You or someone you know, on a daily basis, either browses Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Google+, YouTube, TMZ.com, WorldStarHipHop, etc., to check the latest, gossipy news and to follow the latest trending news.
Studies have shown that chaos and gossip, gives us an adrenaline rush (mainly in women). This said rush, stems from the individual being taken away from their own consciousness, and away from reality. But, somewhere in the mix, the chaos and gossip is then, stamped in the mind and mixed with the reality of the individual. And of course, this musters a particular emotion.
"What does this have to do with cheating and relationships"?, might you ask.
It's simply.
If you were to take a child to a soccer fields for three years straight, on a daily basis, it's so not likely that they'll become a basketball star!
Therefore, you are what you participate in; practice; hear; discuss and visualize the most.
So, If you spend days on end, buried in chaos, and no time, at all, practicing relationship building, or simply the building of your individual self, then, what kind of life (of yours) do you think will spring forth?
Exactly! You will always and forever receive the seed or seeds of what you've sowed or are sowing in your life, the most.
Can you visualize Oprah, Warren Buffet, the head of Sony BMG, the head of Warner & Universal Music Group or the head of Universal Studios, hanging around pimps, prostitutes, and gang bangers to become as successful as they all have?
So not likely!
So, only place yourself around or in situations that reap success.
Now, with this knowledge, let's observe some other possible causes that springs the effect of cheating :
Cause and Effect from a school fundamental stand point teaches that, there's a 'Cause' to every 'Effect'. If this is so, then, why do all women, only, advertise the effect of cheating, completely side-stepping the cause?
See, All Men Don't Cheat, but you mainly hear of the men that do (It's probably more women that cheat, then, men - *explained in its entirety, in the book). I personally know that if you were to sit down with a man that cheated (like reasonable adults), to sincerely find his reasons why,............... I'm sure you'll be surprised of your findings, if the said findings, are to be true.
Back to the 'cause and effect' subject, a cause is defined as, 'why something happened'. An effect is defined as, 'what happened'.
With this knowledge, let's say, you were cheated on (or you question its sincerity). Your would first take yourself through a mental tornado and look for the answers in all the wrong places. Being stuck in your emotions, only hinders you from seeing situations clearly. While being stuck there, you unconsciously bypass all of your true answers.
A perfect place to start, is to look within, first.
"Every time you point a finger, you have three fingers pointed back at (you)".
Under some possible reasons 'why' analysis, (This is not for every case.)
Studies have shown that every woman alive knows, exactly, what it takes to attract a man :
- A certain walk.
- The way you talk.
- Certain revealing clothing.
- Flirtatious eye contact.
- Hair, nails, and facial appointments.
- The "I'm-That-Bitch!" mindset.
- Etc.
Which is an insulting statistic, but sadly true.
I'll let you ponder on that thought.
In closing, stop worrying and putting too much mind energy into losing him (negative what-if's), and put that same energy into finding ways to keep him, and your relationship outcome would be immaculate....
To Be Continued!..........
Respectfully,
Dwight L. Fields (Author of 30 Days of Illuminate! The Truths Revealed (Vol. 1) via Amazon International.)
https://www.google.com/+DwightFields
"Everything you've done to get him, you must do those same exact things, plus more, to keep him." - D. L. Fields - All Men Don't Cheat, But Why He Cheated On You : (BOOK COMING SOON!)
This should be a woman's mindset :
- The continuous flirtatious eye contact, only with (HIM)
- A certain sexy walk, only for (HIM)
- Wearing revealing sexy clothing, only for (HIM)
- Interesting conversations and being fun, only with (HIM)
- And, the "I'm (HIS) Bitch", mindset
Never replaced all these positive relationship building traits with negative, ill-emotions." - D.L. Fields - All Men Don't Cheat, But Why He Cheated On You : (BOOK COMING SOON!)
